Self-confidence is probably one of the best things you can have. After all, the amount of benefits it can bring you is out of this world. Self-confidence makes you happier and more content with your life. It allows you to be more at ease in social situations. It improves your performance, whether you’re an athlete or simply an office worker. It gives your mental health a boost. And – this one is important! – self-confidence is pretty much all you need in order to rock whatever kind of clothing you want!
But, as you probably know, there are a lot of people out there who are struggling in many ways because they’re lacking in self-confidence. You may even know that pain yourself! So what is someone to do if they’re in this position? How do you attain this magical and mysterious thing that people call “self-confidence”?
Self-confidence is actually something you can build up. It’s not this mystical, metaphysical substance that people are just born with and if you didn’t get born with it, then tough luck. With the right mindset and activities, you can improve your levels of self-confidence and feel the benefits!
Here’s a quick guide to some of the things you should keep in mind if you want to boost your self-confidence and discover a new you.
Sometimes, all it takes to help with your confidence problems is to change your perspective. This is especially true if your self-confidence problems come from a series of perceived failures. I’m not saying that thinking “I’m self-confident!” or “I’m great!” is going to magically grant you extra confidence. But if your problem is the result of having tried a bunch of things that haven’t amounted to much success, then a perspective change is definitely needed. Stop thinking of your failures as failures, and instead think of them in a different way.
Exercise really is the best way to improve your self-confidence. It will improve how you look, as well as how you feel about yourself. Frequent physical activity also helps fight depression and anxiety, two things that are often close friends of a lack of confidence. It isn’t as easy to get into frequent exercise as a lot of people assume, so make sure you go into this with a schedule and some specific goals. It can be easy to get discouraged if you go about a new exercise regime in the wrong way, which isn’t going to help you when it comes to building confidence. Be realistic but enthusiastic in your approach and you’ll be fine.
If you want to use clothing and accessories to boost your confidence, then you’ve chosen a good route! (Any excuse to buy some new threads, right?) If you stick to an exercise regime, you may find yourself having to update your wardrobe anyway! So what kind of clothing will help in this area? Well, anything that emphasizes the features you like is a good idea (which is why a lot of women will consider wearing tighter jeans or tops with lower necklines!). If you want something a bit looser, then there will be loads of great summer dresses around now that spring is here. And you may want to consider getting some unique jewelry to complement your new outfit.
People tend to focus a little too much on the visual side of things when it comes to boosting self-confidence. While exercising and new outfits are definitely recommended, sometimes the best thing you can do is learn a new skill. A lot of people suffer from low self-confidence precisely because they don’t feel talented or clever enough, or because their brains haven’t felt engaged in a long time. Consider signing up for an online course in something you’re interested in. You may even want to look into evening courses so you can be face-to-face with a tutor. Learning a new language or learning to play an instrument are among the best skills to learn in this regard.
The friend zone
Sadly, a lot of people suffer from low self-confidence because they’re hanging around with the wrong people. Their “friends” may be people who are very negative and often put them down about things. If you want to boost your self-confidence, then you should seriously consider hanging around with more positive people. You should try talking to your friends to see if they’ll start being a bit less negative (it’s possible that their own low self-confidence is the cause of all the negativity!). But if they continue to knock your confidence, start figuring out how to get them out of your life.